“[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape] Fat women are treated as utterly undesirable in our culture [and] are often turned into a ‘bizarre’ fetish object. The result is that fat women are told to be grateful for any sexual attention they receive from anyone, whether they themselves find that person sexually appealing or not. In other words, even more than your average women, fat women are only allowed to be occasional objects of desire and are regularly denied their right to have and pursue sexual desires of their own.
That way of thinking becomes very dangerous when sexual violence is mixed in. When fat women are raped, they’re often told they should be grateful that anyone wanted them, or, alternatively, disbelieved because it doesn’t seem plausible that anyone would want them ‘enough to rape them.’ These arguments not only rely on the dangerous myth that rape is about uncontrollable sexual desire (it’s not), but also propagate the message that fat women’s bodies aren’t valuable enough to the culture for their violation to be taken seriously.”—Jaclyn Friedman, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (via khaleesi)
'Grateful' to be receiving attention? What a joke? I h8 those who are so judgemental on looks… :(
I iwsh you saw how happy i would really make you, i dont know for sure if you’ll be mine, but i keep hoping, and i’ll stay on this roller coaster with you until the very end if you let me. please choose me, we’d be perfect. I’m the most comfortable with you, you kinda find us awkward but i promise it will get better, i’ll make it better. Just please, give me that chance to make it right for us <3